Wednesday, October 15, 2014

Remembering our Lost Little Ones

Today is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day. It is celebrated in many countries around the world although not entirely internationally. You can read a history of the day here.

It is believed that at least one in four women have lost a baby through miscarriage, stillbirth or neonatal death. If it has not happened to you, then you almost certainly know someone for whom it has. I can almost count on one hand the number of friends I have who have NOT experienced it. Despite the overwhelming prevalence, it is a subject that is not often discussed publicly. Women who lose babies tend to suffer in silence. At a time in their lives when they desperately need support, advice and love, they hide away, ashamed and suffering. This is most true of miscarriage. Many in the medical field reinforce the common belief that miscarriage is not a big deal, not much of a loss, especially when it takes place early in the pregnancy. I am here to tell you that it is not the case. I suffered greatly over each one of my losses. Every one is an immortal soul, created by God, and a unique person. They are much-loved members of our family, even though they never drew breath.

I invite you to participate in the International Wave of Light from 7 PM to 8 PM your local time. Light a candle or candles in memory of those who have departed this life too soon. Say a prayer for peace for the grieving friends and family. 

Here are a few things you may want to look at or ponder today:

Lost Innocents: For Friends and Family (good advice)
Faces of Loss (putting a face on miscarriage, stillbirth and infant loss)
Solace from Silence: Comforting the Bereaved (on the site, Naming the Child)
A Hidden Community (by Jennifer Hock on OCN)

Free e-books available today:

Losing Alex: the Night I Held an Angel
Sunshine After the Storm: A Survival Guide for Grieving Mothers

May the memory of the babies 
who passed so soon to heaven be eternal!

In addition, just to let you all know (especially those who have asked me about it), I contacted Fr. John Matusiak about the memorial service for pre-born infants approved last year. He was given the job of editing and formatting it and will send it to me when it is done. I will post it on Lost Innocents.


  1. Memory Eternal to all those little ones! May God comfort all those who are grieving...

  2. Memory eternal to the sweet babies I remember: Grace (my name for an aborted nephew/niece for whom I'll never stop praying), Stephen, Angelica, Christian, Marie-Chantal, Joëlle, Jessica, and the others I cannot name but will continue to pray for. Mémoire éternelle, chers enfants! May our Lord comfort the grieving. I look forward to reading the memorial service for the born to better pray for my loved ones I never got to meet and my grieving friends and family.

  3. You were in my prayers tonight, after putting all the kids to bed, in front of our altar. Prayers for all the parents left aching (including my own), and that the memories of all those babies born into heaven (including my brothers) will be eternal. Lord, have mercy.


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